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  • How Can a VA or a Remote Worker Be Perfect?

    How Can a VA or a Remote Worker Be Perfect?

    How can a VA or a remote worker be perfect in their career, business, or life? Well in one sense, that is impossible, and in another sense it is possible, but there are some things you need to understand first.

    First… know that it is not possible to be completely and totally perfect all at one moment in time all by yourself. This is an unrealistic expectation that many of us (yes I include myself) place on ourselves (and on others), and this is toxic. It is impossible to be totally perfect at one moment in time, especially given other factors such as being new to the endeavor or having extenuating circumstances, like being sick or being isolated without support.

    However, you can become better over time. That is the goal: a VA or a remote worker can become better over time, and within a supportive community, your work can begin to look like a well-oiled nearly perfect “machine”.

    Once you are aware of this, you can take care of yourself better and advocate for yourself with anyone else who is placing this unrealistic, toxic expectation on you. Unfortunately, for VA’s and other remote workers, this is very common, and many of them are isolated and without a supportive community to help them address issues with employers or clients. So, they leave their remote careers demoralized and traumatized. Many times they do not even know that being treated this way is abusive because they may have been conditioned to accept this behavior by their pre-existing culture in their community, family, or in a prior work culture.

    What Are Some Personal Stories of Perfectionism?

    If you have listened to some of the episodes of my podcast (Plant Your Seeds of Transformation podcast show), you would have heard me and my guests share our own stories on this topic. One of my guests, Nia Ridgle, discussed how toxic perfectionism impacted her life saying, “We are leading other people, but we don’t even know how to take care of ourselves behind close doors.”

    How Can You Get Help With Perfectionism?

    This is where a coach can help fill the gap of support that a VA or remote worker may need. If you would like my support, you can ask me for a free discovery call by registering at this link:

    CoachDonnaMarie.com

    ABOUT SUPPORTIVE COMMUNITY

    Also, this is where becoming part of a supportive community can also help fill the gap of support you need. If you’re a high achieving black woman leader looking to expand your community, learn more about mine and how you can connect with us every Thursday in the previous article I wrote called, “It’s Back! Thursday Co-working“. We start on 9/1/22, but you can join us any time during this 12 weeks of co-working.

    After you join our community, you can access this journal as a tool to help you during your 12-week co-working journey.
    Click here to learn more.
  • Is Procrastination Blasphemy In Perfectionists’ Eyes?

    Is Procrastination Blasphemy In Perfectionists’ Eyes?

    Yes. But it can also be their saving grace when they become ready to let perfectionism go.

    Watch (or listen) to the Plant Your Seeds of Transformation Podcast to learn more.

    [This podcast episode premiers tonight… 5/4 at 8pm EST.]

    YouTube Playlist for the Plant Your Seeds of Transformation Podcast (Also, see PlantYourSeeds.show)
  • [UPDATE] Mentorship for Black Women Remote Workers

    [UPDATE] Mentorship for Black Women Remote Workers

    UPDATE TO MENTORSHIP PROGRAM:

    READ ARTICLE or WATCH VIDEO- CLICK HERE

    If you would like to become a mentor or to be mentored by a mentor, let me know by registering in the contact form below. I or someone from my team will be in touch regarding upcoming events and information about this program. Also, read the FAQ’s below, and submit any questions you have about the program when you register. We will keep growing the FAQ list with answers to your questions.


    Use the updated article (see link near the top of this article) to learn how to join the community and receive mentorship.

    FAQ’s

    What is a remote worker?

    This could be a woman who has been working as a contractor (self-employed, 1099 worker) or who has a small business such as a virtual assistant or marketing freelancer.

    What is a mentor versus a mentee? Who does what and how?

    According to Ambition in Motion, horizontal mentorship is where both the mentor and the mentee give and receive wisdom, knowledge, and encouragement reciprocally. It’s more like a friendship and less like an autocratic relationship than some of the older more traditional mentorship styles based in toxic power dynamics.

    What is a resource where I can learn more about what mentorship can look like for women of color?

    Diversity in Best Practices has provided a recording of their webinar “Candid Advice on Mentoring Women of Color“. They give excellent advice that aligns with some of the things that I know as a professional coach. I highly recommend

    How can we learn more about ourselves and understand ourselves better?

    You can use assessments to help understanding yourself better. Check out the CloverLeaf app and sign up for free to try out an assessment for yourself.

  • [COACHING] Visualize Your VA Business

    [COACHING] Visualize Your VA Business

    Is your VA business (or remote working career) more like a forest or a garden? Take the poll below and share.

    In my latest podcast for the “Plant Your Seeds of Transformation” show, I talked about the topic of intentionality and how that is connected to having a small business that makes a big impact in the world. I hope you will listen (or watch) and leave me feedback to let me know what “aha moments” you had while you listened.

    Listen on Spotify or Your Favorite Player

    The Plant Your Seeds of Transformation Podcast Show via Spotify includes Relevant Music Excerpts

    During this podcast, I discussed intentionality from a spiritual perspective and from a practical perspective.

    What is your understanding of what it means to be more intentional in your life and in your business?

    One example I used was related to how mothers hope and dream for their children. How do you allow your parenting to inform how you handle your business as a VA or your career as a remote worker?

    Group or Individualized Coaching for You

    What are you doing to be more intentional about your VA business or remote worker career? How could having a coach who really understands your world impact how you keep moving forward in your business/career?

    If you would like for me to coach you and support you one-on-one (or in a group) as you continue to grow your VA business (or your remote work career), you can use the contact form at the bottom of this article to request a complimentary get acquainted session where we can get to know one another better and see if we would be a good fit for each other. Even if we are not a good fit, I have a trusted network of coaches that I can refer you to.*

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